I invite you to take a look within and explore your self-trust with me today. Self-trust is feeling safe relying on your physical, mental, and emotional bodies, knowing that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way. It is the ability to listen to your intuition and follow it. When you have self-trust you’ll be able to make decisions easily and believe in yourself enough to know the decisions that are right for you.
When you don’t trust yourself it can be hard to recognize, it is important to take a look at how you treat yourself on a daily basis and bring some awareness to the areas in your life where you are lacking self-trust. A lack of self-worth, negative self-talk, trying to prove yourself, trying to control life, comparing yourself to others, not speaking your truth, not keeping promises you made to yourself, feeling like you don’t have a choice, and giving your power away to others are all signs that you don’t trust yourself. Not having trust in yourself often results in looking to other people for answers or to make decisions for you. This can lead you down a path where you don’t feel happy because you are living for others and doing what others think is best.
I want you to know that you have the power within you to make decisions that are soul aligned with your highest truth. It is safe for you to listen to your body, your body knows what it needs for your health and you can trust your body’s natural healing capabilities. It is safe for you to experience your full range of emotions. You can listen to and trust your intuition. Know that right now, you are exactly where you are meant to be and if your intuition is telling you to change something, it’s time to listen and take action.
Developing self-trust starts with your perception which is the sensory information you take in and your brain interprets so that you can understand your experience. You are constantly taking in information from your physical senses and your intuitive senses. This gets absorbed both consciously and subconsciously. Your brain then interprets the information received and sends messages throughout your body formulating a response.
If you want to trust yourself, start with the ability to trust your senses. If, like me, you have been through trauma during your childhood development you may find yourself cut off from this ability. When someone tells you that you are wrong about your sense perception or your interpretation of reality it creates a story that says you can’t even trust your own senses. Other things that can cause a lack of trust at a sensory level include abandonment, physical neglect, feeding difficulties, and abuse. Learning to trust your senses again means reaffirming your reality and teaching your body to trust it’s impulses like eating when you are hungry or sleeping when you need rest.
If you’ve been reading this far and have come to the realization that your self-trust needs some work then there are some things that you can do to grow that trust.
One of my favorite tools for self-trust has been learning about Human Design. You can start by looking up your human design chart here. There are two pieces of information from your chart that you will want to work with for building self-trust. They are your Strategy and Authority. Your strategy tells you how you receive options that are available to you that are in alignment with your unique energy. For example, my strategy is to wait for the invitation, this means when I am invited to do something or share my wisdom, it often works better than if I were to insert myself into a situation or share unsolicited advice. This does not work for everyone as some strategies are meant to initiate, others to respond, and some wait. Your authority guides you in the best way to make decisions for yourself. It is your super power when it comes to your intuition. Since I learned about Human design, I’ve started using this information with all of my clients to help them better understand their unique energy pattern. Using your strategy and authority adds an extra boost to help you trust your intuition.
Learning to trust yourself begins with creating a foundation of self-trust. You start to build that foundation by generating proof that you can trust yourself. Take time to create a list of all the times you trusted yourself and it paid off and take note of the times you did not trust yourself and it bit you in the butt. Start to notice how it feels when you decide for yourself instead of listening to what someone else thinks is best. Building a foundation of self-trust requires daily practice of listening to yourself and making decisions that are based on what your senses are telling you. You also need to suspend any self-doubt, even if it means faking it until you make it. Imagine you trusted yourself, what would you do? Every action that you take that is founded on self-trust will build on each other until you can say with certainty that you trust yourself.
To do this, you need to shift into a new state of being. See yourself having the power to make decisions that are soul aligned. Shift into the feeling of self-confidence and self-assuredness, just by shifting your focus to those feelings. Step out of your comfort zone and take action on your desires. You can not become self-trusting if you are always playing it safe, fearing shaking things up, and refusing to change the way you do things. When you keep playing it safe, you lose trust in yourself, you stop believing that you can have what you want, and you stop following through on your dreams. Instead of proving to yourself how great you are, you prove to yourself that your life is mundane and you are a failure.
As you learn to trust yourself, be careful not to fall for instant gratification. This is the temptation of your ego, which does not always have your highest good in mind and can lead to not trusting yourself. Sometimes the path to your desires is a long road full of trial and error. Following your intuition and taking action doesn’t mean jumping into relationships because you just want to be loved or moving from one job to another to find some kind of satisfaction. It’s the things that you do, even though they are hard because you know that ultimately they will lead to true happiness that lead to true self-trust. Remember, true self-trust means knowing that you can handle the hard times too. When you make a decision and things get tough, it does not mean that you can not trust yourself. There is no wrong path because the struggles are there to teach you. They are there to guide you to make better decisions as you learn more about who you are and what you want.
As you walk this path, working with a guide or mentor can help. Especially if you are someone who has been through trauma that has caused you to separate from the ability to trust yourself. Sometimes it does help to talk to someone unbiased who doesn’t have an agenda, someone who wants to help you be able to truly trust yourself. I want that for you because I remember what it was like to not trust myself. I know what it takes to get there and how to recognize the unique power within you to tap into this ability. If this work calls to you, I invite you to book a session here.