How to Know If Your Heart Chakra is out of Balance

Here are some signs that your heart chakra may be imbalanced:

  • You may find yourself neglecting your own needs in an effort to please others, denying yourself of your own wants and desires. This can lead to feelings of resentment and bitterness, and you may feel like others don’t know how to care for you in the way that you need.
  • You fixate on others by always being a caretaker and putting their needs before your own. You may hope that doing so will earn you their love. You may have thoughts like, “Maybe if I do this, then they will love me,” “Why do they treat me so poorly when I do everything for them?” or “Why can’t I ever do enough for you?โ€
  • You may yearn to be loved by someone. Perhaps you spend a lot of time thinking about how and when you will find “the one”. You seek reassurance, validation, and approval from those closest to you. When you don’t get it, you may feel devastated and rejected, which only affirms to you that you are not lovable.
  • You may hold onto relationships for far too long, hoping that one day that person will come around and treat you the way you want to be treated.
  • To protect yourself, you may avoid getting too close to others. This can manifest as feeling disconnected from others, struggling to form meaningful relationships, walking away from a relationship anytime they do something you don’t like, being critical or judgmental of others, and struggling with trust or commitment in relationships.
  • You withhold love and affection from others and struggle to understand why no one reciprocates, always waiting for someone else to make the first move.
  • You dwell on the past, longing for a time when you were loved. You might find yourself feeling angry and betrayed, constantly bringing up how terrible your past was. You may blame others for not loving you enough.
  • Ultimately, you may feel empty, unworthy, or unloved to the core of your being.

These signs indicate that your heart chakra may be imbalanced. Neglecting your own needs to please others, fixating on others, yearning to be loved, holding onto unhealthy relationships, avoiding getting too close to others, withholding love, dwelling on the past, and feeling empty or unloved all contribute to an imbalanced heart chakra. 

By recognizing these signs, you can begin to work on balancing and healing your heart chakra through practices such as self-love, vulnerability, and Reiki sessions focused on opening the heart.


Opening Your Heart Chakra

Opening your heart chakra can be a transformative experience, allowing you to access a deeper sense of love and connection. By focusing on this powerful energy center, you can begin to heal emotional wounds and cultivate a more positive outlook on life. The key to opening your heart chakra is through self-love and self-acceptance. You can use the five stages of grief to achieve this.

Stage 1: DenialIn this stage, you may ignore certain parts of yourself, which can cause a lot of fear and anxiety. You may label these parts of yourself as wrong or bad and try to hide them so that no one can see them. This may protect you from pain, loss, and change. If you are rejecting a part of yourself, it’s important to gather resources for support

Stage 2: Anger When we feel angry, we often feel betrayed and tend to blame our parts for the circumstances we find ourselves in. These parts may seem to have appeared out of nowhere. While this anger can be self-directed, it can also be directed towards others. The only way to move through your anger is to allow yourself to experience it and express it in healthy ways.

Stage 3: Bargaining Bargaining often involves making agreements with our parts in order to keep ourselves safe. For example, with regards to our heart chakra, this may manifest as resolving to avoid relationships or telling ourselves that we need to try harder to get our need for love met. However, these bargains we make with ourselves do not serve us and often create further separation from getting our needs met. Ultimately, in an effort to open our hearts, we may end up blocking ourselves.

Stage 4: Depression When we begin to recognize that the patterns or deals we make with ourselves are not effective, we become exhausted, sad, and may even give up. We engage in denial, anger, and bargaining to avoid reaching this stage. However, once we get there, the only option is to feel the pain. It will only dissipate after working through these emotions.

Stage 5: Acceptance You’ve made it! Through all the difficulty of the other stages you come out on the other side at peace with what is. Acceptance is freedom. You are free to choose and act in a way that supports you. Finally, you’ve integrated your parts and can look forward to what’s next.

This involves recognizing the various parts of yourself, understanding how you feel about each part, and identifying what each part needs. Each of these parts may go through the five stages of grief, which are also the five stages of acceptance. To achieve self-acceptance, you must allow yourself to move through each of these five stages. It is possible to be in more than one of these stages at once and to wobble between stages.

Once we learn to apply the five stages to ourselves for self-love and self-acceptance, we can then start to apply them in many different areas of our lives. For example, we can use the five stages to process the loss of our dreams, our failures, and unmet goals. We can also use them to process the loss of a loved one, relationships, or painful experiences.

In conclusion, opening the heart chakra through Reiki can be a powerful tool for healing emotional wounds and cultivating a deeper sense of love and connection. Recognizing the signs of an imbalanced heart chakra and using the five stages of grief for self-love and self-acceptance can help you achieve a more positive outlook on life.

Remember that healing takes time, and it’s okay to ask for support when you need it. With regular Reiki sessions and a focus on self-love, you can experience greater peace, joy, and fulfillment in your life.

Did you gain any new insights about opening your heart chakra? Send me a DM and let me know if you find this week’s guidance helpful!

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