Codependent No More Reading Group – First Meeting August 17th 

I’m excited to move forward with the Codependent No More reading group! We will be meeting every other Wednesday, starting August 17th at 6pm on Zoom.

The cost per meeting for the group is a minimum $10 donation. 

All meetings are confidential. However, I will be recording the meetings so that I can create videos using only clips of myself.

To prepare for the first meeting, please read through Chapter 2, “Other Stories”. If you can, take time to journal on the end of chapter questions and write down any questions you would like to bring to the meeting.

I am expecting a minimum of 12 meetings, however it is possible we will meet a few more times depending on how things go.

You can purchase the book on Amazon here, I recommend having a physical or kindle copy so you can do the exercises:

To register for the meetings you would like to attend please use this link:

If you have any questions, please let me know.

With love and light,

Do You Feel Like You Belong?

“Many codependents, at some time in their lives, were true victims—of someone’s abuse, neglect, abandonment, alcoholism, or any number of situations that can victimize people. We were, at some time, truly helpless to protect ourselves or solve our problems. Something came our way, something we didn’t ask for, and it hurt us terribly. That is sad, truly sad. But an even sadder fact is that many of us codependents began to see ourselves as victims. Our painful history repeats itself. As caretakers, we allow people to victimize us, and we participate in our victimization by perpetually rescuing people. Rescuing or caretaking is not an act of love.”

― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

As a recovering codependent myself I can relate to this quote so much. Yes, I’ve been a victim of abuse and I’ve also gotten stuck there. I’ve been in the place where the only way I could see myself was as a victim. At the time, I remember how hard it was to get out of it, and how trapped I felt. I’ve been in that position where I’ve allowed someone to victimize me because I wanted to rescue that person.

Melody Beattie’s work was one of the tools I used in reclaiming myself after being in a codependent and toxic relationship. Her work was so impactful that I often use what I learned from her work in the work with my clients. It’s why I’m so excited to be starting a Reading Group and Healing Circle that will be focused on her book Codependent No More.

One of the biggest wounds you’ll struggle with as a codependent is wanting to feel loved and to feel like you belong. But being codependent can be so isolating because you latch onto one person to meet all of your needs. So when you walk away, you’re left feeling empty and having no one to turn to. 

At the same time, you may have felt your entire life that you never fit in. This is because of your super heightened levels of empathy and unique trauma.

As codependents, we need a community of like-minded supporters. We need to talk about our experiences with people who have gone through similar experiences. Often, we underestimate the power of connection in our journey.

In order to build trust and open your heart, you have to be willing to let people who can understand and support you in.

Social connection fuels your body the same way eating, drinking, and breathing does. Without it, we can fall into a self-created pit of despair. Full of negativity, scarcity thinking, and a whole lot of believing you’re alone.

In order to overcome that, you have to forgive yourself and others. You have to heal your resentments, let go of victimhood, and release the pain from the past. Only then can you learn the lesson offered.

You can start the forgiveness process with Ho’oponopono. Simply focus on the statements, “I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”

It’s these practices and more that we’ll discuss and work through together as we read Codependent No More.

It’s been on my mind the past couple of months to start a reading group and healing circle.

We will be starting with the book Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.

The plan is to read each chapter(s) on our own and then come together for a facilitated group discussion and healing exercises related to each chapter.

So far out of the responses I have received, it looks like Wednesday evenings are going to be the best option that works for most people. I’ve got a good mix of people that prefer Zoom and others that prefer in-person. So I am considering a hybrid model where people can call into the meeting for Zoom or meet with us in person.

For the first meeting to discuss the reading plan, we’ll be meeting on Zoom, next Wednesday, August 3rd at 6pm PT. The first meeting is free, if you’d like to attend the reading group please join us so that I can get your feedback and best tailor the group to everyone’s needs. The link to register for the Zoom meeting is below, register in advance so you don’t miss it!

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Aug 3, 2022 06:00 PM Pacific Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

What’s Blocking You from Choosing Life on Purpose

Last week we talked about choosing to live life on purpose. Let’s take a look at the chakras and what blocks us from making that choice. While these blocks can show up all throughout the chakra system, today I want to talk about the solar plexus. When someone is feeling blocked from their purpose, almost always a block in the solar plexus shows up.

The solar plexus is the center for personal power and individuality. It goes through a series of developmental phases as we grow up. The first phase of development is at about 2 years old, it’s what some people refer to as the terrible twos. At two years old, we’re learning who we are, independent of our parents. In order to do that we have to test and experiment with who we are. Often this is done by saying no to everything! 

During our teenage years, we go through a second developmental phase of the solar plexus as we move into adulthood. We’re learning who we are as adult individuals. This chakra becomes blocked when that individuation process isn’t able to happen. This is the case for many people and it is especially so for those who are assigned female at birth. 

If your solar plexus hasn’t been allowed to develop fully and you haven’t had the opportunity to really figure out who you are, then in adulthood you’ll hit a point when it’s time to find yourself. Eventually, you’ll have an identity crisis, midlife crisis, or what some people describe as a nervous breakdown. In order to discover yourself, often your whole world will crumble. (In tarot, this is referred to as the Tower card, so if you’ve ever drawn this or had it pulled in a reading you probably know what I’m talking about.)

The things that don’t allow us to develop fully are called conditioning. Being young and impressionable, we are extremely sensitive to the conditioning from the world around us. This conditioning comes in from our parents, families, school, peers, and society.

There are a multitude of nuanced ways in which the solar plexus becomes conditioned. What it comes down to most of the time is what Emily Nagoski refers to as human giver syndrome. Human givers have a duty to give everything they have – their time, their attention, their patience, their love, their rest, their bodies, their hopes and dreams, their very lives sometimes, sacrificed on the altar of other humans’ comfort and convenience.

There are countless ways we are conditioned to become human givers. Sometimes it is modeled behavior from our parents or they put inappropriate responsibilities on us. For those of us who are assigned female at birth, society almost requires it of us. All the messages society sends tell us that “Good Woman = Human Giver”.

When your solar plexus is blocked, instead of choosing to live a life on purpose, you people please, always doing what you are supposed to do or what others want you to do. Doing anything else would mean suffering from mounds of guilt, shame, and fear.

The problem with people pleasing is that eventually you’ll grow bitter, angry, or frustrated because it doesn’t resonate with your soul. Trying to do what makes other people happy isn’t living in integrity with your own truth. The more you try, the more the resentment will build up in your body causing all kinds of dis-ease. The more you refuse to listen to your wants and needs, the more your heart and soul feel betrayed.

Even if you don’t know your purpose right now. Your soul is still calling for you to honor yourself. You’re destined for something. It may not be what you thought it would be and it has nothing to do with what everyone else wants. But its there inside of you, calling you from somewhere deep and true. You know it’s there because you can feel a sense of power arising from your true self. It’s calling you to take action, make a commitment to explore something, or make a purposeful choice.

If you want to live a purposeful life, you have to remove the blocks to your essential self. When you do that, your purpose will find you.

The good news is, you can learn to clear out the conditioning so that you can hear your inner voice.

There are many ways that people try to remove this conditioning. A lot of people try to use mindset work, repeating the same affirmations over and over hoping that they will believe them. The problem is that you’re still carrying it in your energetic field. No matter how many times you repeat the same affirmation it will never ring true until the untruth is cleared from your energetic field.

When you address the energetic conditioning you are carrying you are able to root out the conditioning from its source and expunge it from your field.

Try this next time your inner self critic shows up. Ask yourself who that critical voice resembles. Is it a parent, a peer, a mentor? Then notice the voice of rebellion, the voice that says, “That’s not true!” What message does it have for you? Who’s voice is the rebellious voice? Is it your inner child?

During an Intuitive Healing Session my goal is to help you pinpoint the conditioning that is blocking you from living your life on purpose. To guide you so you can listen to your inner voice, make purposeful decisions, commit to following your authentic purpose, and move forward and take action.

My Intuitive Healing Sessions are available in person and virtually, take the next step and make a commitment to discovering your true self by selecting the time that works best for you and you’ll be guided through the steps to schedule your next session!

How to Show Up in Life

I’ve lived most of my life, especially the last ten years with purpose. I’m always working toward the next goal or towards some achievement. On the surface, sometimes it’s difficult for me to feel sympathy for people who are feeling purposeless. When I dig deeper though, I’ve definitely felt purposeless because even though I’m always working towards a goal doesn’t mean that I’m always in alignment with my purpose.

When the pandemic hit and I had to shut down Nirvana Healing Center, it sent me into a spiral of purposelessness. If I wasn’t doing my work, then what meaning was there to my life? I had spent the previous 8 years of my life defining my purpose solely based on what I was doing for work. I felt hopeless, my life was crumbling and I had no idea how long it would last. Thanks to having a ton of time for self-reflection, I realized that I needed to redefine my purpose so that I could find meaning in my life even without my work.

Your purpose isn’t something you discover, it’s something you choose.

We can choose to live our life for something external, based on what we’ve been told, the people we’re trying to please, or what society tells us. When I really dig deep this is where purposeless shows up as a shadow in my life. I’ve spent so much time trying to do what I think is going to make someone else happy. I’m still working towards a goal, a purpose, but not mine.

It’s led to feeling resentment, worthlessness, and self-doubt. Living a purposeless life can lead to feelings of numbness, not caring, and hopelessness and it can also lead to feeling like nothing you do matters, like nothing brings you joy, and like you can never achieve anything. Maybe you’ve been living a completely purposeless life and maybe you’ve been living a life for others. At some point, this will leave a lot of people in a place of searching and trying to find their purpose.

But your purpose isn’t something you discover, it’s something you choose.

When you’re trying to find your purpose and feel stuck it’s because something is blocking you from making that choice. You already know your purpose. Chances are you’re already aware of what you want to manifest, of what you are working towards. You have goals and dreams that are there lying dormant waiting for you to choose them. You have your own unique purpose, not someone else’s!

Want to know your purpose? 

You are here to shine your light! You are here to show up and live life and enjoy the experience!

We need to stop talking about how you are going to discover your purpose and start talking about what you are going to step up and choose for yourself. What feels most empowering to you? A state of searching or consciously choosing your own path?

Be honest with yourself, what is your big dream? The one that seems so big you could never achieve, the one you gave up, the one that seems crazy, the one that someone put down. Are you showing up for it?

Are you sharing your gifts with the world or are you dimming your light?

Are you afraid to be seen or judged? Or are you afraid of being too much, too big, too self-centered, or too successful?

Divine being, you are needed. 

You have a beautiful soul that chose to come into this world. That alone is purposeful.

Your uniqueness is needed in this world. Now is the time to work your soul’s directive in any way that you can.

Are you shining your light? Can you shine it even brighter?

You are one with the divine and you have the ability to weave your dreams into the fabric of your reality. At any moment you can make a choice that will change your reality. What you do, what you choose matters.

Trust that when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

There are so many movies now that experiment with multiple realities and different timelines. Most recently, Everything Everywhere All at Once and Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness both explore these concepts. They explore what would happen if you made a different choice, what are the possibilities that exist, and how each choice shifts reality.

Imagine it for yourself, what are the possibilities that exist based on the choices you make. Each choice you make shifts your path and your reality. You are in the driver’s seat, be conscious of the reality you are creating.

Instead of talking about why it’s so hard for you to find your purpose, let’s talk about what’s blocking you from choosing to live life on purpose. This is exactly what we can talk about in an Intuitively Guided Business Strategy Session and you don’t have to have a business to take advantage of this offer.

In an Intuitively Guided Business Strategy Session, we ask the right questions to help you finally find answers. We can ask:

  • What do I need to know about my purpose?
  • What is the next step I can take on my soul’s path?
  • How can I show up in the world and shine my light?
  • What is blocking me from living a purposeful life?
  • What is blocking me from shining my light?
  • And more

In a purpose-focused Intuitively Guided Business Strategy Session we will find the root cause of what is blocking you from fully showing up and shining your light. We’ll do this by giving you permission to choose your life purpose and exploring how to make the best choice for yourself. After the reading, you’ll be able to fully own your purpose and believe it so that you can shine your light.

To take the next step, start by booking a clarity call here so we can discuss the process and next steps.

With love and light,

Why Clairvoyance Doesn’t Work

Are you a coach, therapist, or healer that struggles to get clear visions when you’re working with a client? How many times have you sat in a group where there was a guided visualization and the people in the room shared all the amazingly clear and detailed visions they received, while you sit there wondering why all you managed to see was maybe a blue light or perhaps just the insides of your eyelids?

Instead of leaving with spectacular insights, you leave feeling disappointed, inadequate, and frustrated. Why is it so easy for some people to have these extraordinary visions while others have none? The reason is that for them clairvoyance is a huge part of their unique Intuitive Blueprint. The problem for you isn’t that you’re not clairvoyant, it’s that you haven’t yet discovered and learned to tap into your unique Intuitive Blueprint.

When you’re working with a client but you don’t know your unique Intuitive Blueprint, you’re going to constantly be fighting an uphill battle to tune into the psychic senses you find most attractive. You try to be like your mentors and peers and get stuck in comparison mode, which creates more blocks to your intuition. Your clients can leave feeling disconnected, dissatisfied, and misunderstood which causes them to doubt the power of your work, and instead of coming back, they’ll continue searching for an answer.

You do this because you haven’t been taught how to tap into your unique Intuitive Blueprint. So many teachers teach how to do things the way they learned to do them because that is what worked for them. Where they go wrong, is assuming that just because something worked for them that it’s going to work for everybody. The truth is that you are unique, you have an individual learning style, you have unique experiences and gifts, and you have a Unique Intuitive Blueprint.

Your unique Intuitive Blueprint exists within you right now, just waiting to be discovered. Over the past 3 years of teaching Reiki, I’ve helped my students discover their Unique Intuitive Blueprint so that they can give their clients stellar feedback after their sessions. Once they discover their Unique Intuitive Blueprint, the light bulb turns on and they can access so much clarity in their intuition as they read the chakras. It’s all about tapping into all of your psychic senses to discover your strengths and then learning to interpret the information you’re receiving.

So next time you are trying to tap into your intuition, whether that’s to gain information about a client or for yourself or during a guided visualization, instead of training to visualize try dropping into your other senses. Bring all your senses to the intention or question and begin to notice what you feel, hear, know, smell, and taste too. As you do this, your Unique Intuitive Blueprint will start to make itself clearer to you.

In my work with my clients and students, one of my goals is to help them to discover their Unique Intuitive Blueprint through meditations, exercises, and tapping into my intuition to help them to receive the information they need to get clear intuitive messages for themselves and their clients.

If you’d like to discover what’s blocking your ability to get clear intuitive messages for your clients, I have four spots open for Intuitively Guided Business Strategy Sessions where I’ll tune into your blocks and your Unique Intuitive Blueprint and work together to help you increase your clarity and deliver better feedback in your sessions. To grab a spot, you can book here or schedule a free clarity call to get to know each other and figure out if this would be a good fit for you.

With love and light,