Healing isn’t about fixing yourself, it’s about remembering who you already are. Yet from a young age, we’re taught the opposite: that healing means becoming shinier, better, more acceptable. And in the age of social media, that belief only gets louder.
Maybe you’ve seen the spiritual influencer with the perfect body. They hop from retreat to retreat. They live a minimalist nomadic lifestyle that looks effortless. Or the mom influencer with four kids who seems to have it all figured out. She runs a YouTube channel and juggles endless creative projects. She homeschools and somehow keeps her home sparkling clean.
It’s easy to look at these curated lives and think: If I want to heal, I have to become like that. But here’s the truth: most of us don’t even want that. What we’re really searching for isn’t how to become someone else. It’s how to become more of ourselves.
Healing looks like setting one clear boundary. Taking time to rest without guilt. Saying yes to something you’ve been putting off out of fear. Rediscovering a joy you’d forgotten. Small shifts, done with consistency and intention, create space for authenticity. Healing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about small, courageous choices that bring us closer to who we really are.
For me, one of these choices is letting go of the story that a “good mom” does it all herself. That story has kept me stretched thin, resentful, and disconnected from my own needs. For the last two years, I’ve been figuring out ways to shift that narrative and it hasn’t been easy. Most recently, I made the decision to put my toddler in part-time daycare. It’s been challenging, but I know it’s a turning point in my own healing.
The Lie of Brokenness: Why Healing Isn’t About Fixing Yourself
The idea that we need to be “fixed” is one of the deepest lies we carry. It tells us we’re not worthy of healing. It seeps into us quietly, through family expectations, cultural pressures, and spiritual spaces that mistake perfection for progress. It’s a wound to the crown chakra. This is the place where we are meant to connect to higher wisdom. It is where we connect to divine love and the truth of our inherent wholeness.
When that connection is fractured, we start believing there’s something fundamentally wrong with us. We start searching outside ourselves for proof that we’re finally enough.
This is when we start chasing saviors, formulas, and polished images of what “healed” is supposed to look like. And the spiritual and wellness industries profit from that hunger. Manifest this in five days. 10x your income instantly. Quadruple your intuition overnight. These promises are seductive because they prey on our insecurity.
But the truth is, every time we buy into those messages, we drift further from our own wisdom. We stop listening to the subtle guidance of our intuition because we’re busy trying to fit into someone else’s model of success. Real healing has nothing to do with someone else’s formula. It has everything to do with coming home to our own.
Here’s what I know: healing isn’t about fixing yourself. You were never broken. There is nothing about you that needs repairing before you’re allowed to heal. Healing is about peeling back layers of shame and expectation until you reconnect with the wholeness that has always been there.
When we let go of the lie of brokenness, healing stops being about striving. It becomes about returning. It becomes about presence, self-trust, and the courage to live as our authentic selves—not as someone else’s ideal.
Curiosity and Hesitation on the Healing Journey
This remembering often begins quietly, with curiosity. You notice yourself circling the same thing over and over. You read, you research, you revisit. Maybe you save a post to come back to later. Maybe you keep hearing about a certain practice or person. You think, Someday… You tell yourself you’re not ready yet.
But curiosity itself is readiness. It’s your intuition whispering: There’s something here for you. It’s the soft tug toward what your heart already knows but your mind hasn’t caught up to. Healing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about letting curiosity lead you to the next step.
I’ve seen this play out so many times with my clients. One circled my work for months, pulled but afraid to commit. She had tried working with another practitioner whose “tough love” energy left her more shut down. What she wanted was compassion. She told me later I just kept showing up for her. I appeared in her feed and in her thoughts. There were quiet nudges she couldn’t ignore. Eventually, she trusted the pull of her intuition and reached out.
When she did, she told me she felt soothed, safe, and seen. She realized she didn’t have to be ready in some perfect way. She just had to start.
And I’ve lived that same hesitation. When I considered daycare, I circled the idea for months. My mind filled with endless questions: Would it be enough time? Would I lose myself or finally find myself again? Who am I if I’m not the one holding it all together?
I couldn’t know the answers until I took the step. That’s the thing about change, it asks us to trust without guarantees. That moment where curiosity meets courage is where healing begins.
Messy but Powerful: Proof That Healing Isn’t About Fixing Yourself
Daycare hasn’t been a perfect solution. The first weeks were full of guilt, relief, fear, and doubt. I second-guessed myself daily. But even inside the mess, I could feel things shifting.
I noticed more patience with myself, more energy for my work, and more presence with my child. My toddler blossomed in independence, coming home with new confidence and connection.
That’s the reality of healing. It rarely looks neat or polished. But it’s always powerful. The beauty isn’t in doing it perfectly—it’s in letting the imperfect process open the door for transformation.
That’s how my Intuitive Healing Sessions work, too. Healing isn’t about flipping a switch. It’s about creating a safe container where every part of you is welcome: fear, doubt, messiness, and hope. Within that space, transformation unfolds. This happens not because you’ve been “fixed,” but because you’ve been seen. You are honored and supported in your wholeness.
Letting Go, Choosing Renewal
To embrace this kind of healing, we often have to let go of old stories:
- The story that we’re broken.
- The mask of perfection.
- The belief that belonging isn’t for us.
- The pressure to carry it all alone.
- The wounds of past failures whispering “this won’t work either.”
- The idea that healing must be big and dramatic to be real.
For me, it was letting go of the story that a “good mom” does it all. Letting go of that identity isn’t easy. I still wrestle with guilt and doubt. Yet, it created space for a fuller version of myself to emerge.
That’s what release really is. It’s not loss. It’s renewal. Renewal is choosing evolution because you want more alignment, more spaciousness, and more authenticity.
The Victory of Courage
Two weeks into daycare, my toddler looked at me with bright eyes. My toddler said, “I’m not going to be sad at daycare. I’m going to be brave and confident.”
That moment stopped me. They were reflecting the very courage I had modeled back to me. The choice I had made—scared, messy, and imperfect as it was—had already begun to ripple outward.
That’s what courage does. It doesn’t just transform us; it inspires those around us. When we choose to step ahead despite fear, we give others permission to do the same.
And this is the essence of healing. Healing isn’t about fixing yourself. The victory isn’t measured only in outcomes—it’s in the moment you decide to start. Courage itself is the milestone. Each courageous choice creates a ripple of transformation, in you and in those who witness you.
The Invitation: Healing Isn’t About Fixing Yourself
You don’t have to feel ready. Readiness is created by beginning.
If your intuition has been circling this work, that’s not an accident. Maybe you’ve found yourself reading my words more than once, or quietly wondering what if. That’s your inner wisdom whispering: There’s something here for you.
You don’t need to fix yourself and you don’t need to wait until life feels perfect. You just need to take the first step.
Healing isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about coming home to yourself.
If you’re feeling that tug in your chest, let this be your sign. Come home to yourself. Book a session, and let’s walk this part of the journey together.
