The need to be loved is one of your most basic and fundamental needs. For many of you, having a healthy relationship may determine your happiness. I’ve seen so many clients come in seeking to be loved and denying themselves joy in the present.
Our need to be loved is valid and rooted in the human experience. Research shows that one of the most important predictors of late-life happiness is stable relationships. These types of relationships are rooted in friendship. More than anything, it’s companionship that leads to happiness.
So, why then do you struggle with finding companionship? Why do you struggle to feel loved?
It’s because you are too busy focusing on the other instead of focusing within. In order to attract the right person for you, you have to be the person that you want to attract.
Are you that person right now? Do you know who you are, what you desire, and what you need? Are you leading from the heart, from your authenticity and integrity?
Are you living a power-centered life or are you leading from a place of control? You can’t be doing both at the same time. If you’re not living a power-centered life then chances are you answered no to the above questions.
Leading a power-centered life means taking responsibility for yourself. For your thoughts, beliefs, choices, actions, emotions, and experiences. It’s making choices that support you. It’s living in a state of presence and equality.
Leading from a place of control means that you’re primarily focused externally. You’re concerned with other people and the timing of when things happen. You feel frustrated, unequal, isolated, and like your life is a constant struggle. You’ll find yourself judging, blaming, and fighting with the world around you.
You don’t have to experience all these things, in fact, if you experience just one of them, you’re operating from control.
In order for you to attract loving relationships, you need to be living a power-centered life. The key to attracting a loving relationship isn’t in searching for the right person. Instead focus on clarifying who you are, what you desire, and what you need. When you do that, the right person will be able to recognize you because they’ll be looking for the same things. You’ll magnetize to each other.
Learn to let go of the things that you try to control and the things that you feel control you. When you let go of lower vibrational energy, you make space in your field for the things you desire.
Start working on feeling confident in yourself and believing in your own worth. Treat yourself how you want to be treated. Accept nothing less than what you deserve. Surrender and stay open to opportunities.
One of the keys to power is presence. Practicing presence is simple to start doing right now. Simply practice paying attention to your physical senses. Pay attention to what you see, feel, hear, taste, and smell at different moments throughout your day. Then, when you interact with others, bring that same level of presence to that person. See them, and let yourself be seen.
When you are present in the physical world, you invite magic to happen. You experience life the way that you’re meant to, through enjoyment and pleasure. Your relationships are going to reflect that and, out of that, love will grow.
If you’re interested in diving deeper into learning to live a power-centered life, this is exactly one of the things that we work on in Intuitive Healing Sessions together. Together, we’ll discover where in your energy you’re holding onto control. I’ll guide you through practicing deep presence and witnessing yourself so that you can let go. To book a session, click here.
With love and light,